What Does Winnie the Pooh Know About Love?
My best friend Liz and I call my husband Winnie the Pooh when it comes to love. He just has this way of saying things that cuts to the chase and lays it plain.
Eddie and I have been watching a friend of ours struggle with love. He says, “She’s sending out signals to guys that tells them they can get away with anything. She needs to be tougher like you, Bunny. You don’t put up with any crap.”
I say, “I don’t think it’s that. She’s just attracted to unavailable guys.”
Eddie says, “Nope. I know guys. I know that some guys act unavailable, but all it takes is the right girl to stand up for herself and he’ll fall head over heels for her.”
“Oh? What kinds of things are you talking about?
“The number one thing,” Eddie says, “is not to sleep with him right away. If a guy thinks you’re just a booty call, that’s all you will ever be to him. Make sure he is in a commitment with you and only you before you have sex.
“OK, that makes sense. What else?” I ask.
“Make him date you. Make sure he is making some kind of effort. It doesn’t have to be expensive. A picnic doesn’t cost much, or a walk on the seawall, or a drive to a place with a great view where you can talk and kiss and get to know one another. If he just wants to come over to your place, or take you to his place all the time, that’s all you’ll ever get from him. He needs to do some courting.”
“Wow! That’s a good one. You did that with me. In fact, you took me away for a few romantic weekends and we had a ton of fun.”
“I know,” he said. “I wanted you to know I was serious. I wouldn’t have spent that kind of time, effort and money if I wasn’t.”
“Is there anything else women need to know?”
“Yes. Introduce him to your friends and make sure he introduces you to his. If he’s not inviting you into his world after too long, he doesn’t want to include you. You know that when you meet the parents, you’re in. Also, make sure he is introducing you as his girlfriend. If he introduces you as his date, or friend, then you know something is weird.”
“This is all good advice, Bunny (we call each other Bunny). Is there one last thing you would want to tell women?”
“Yes. Don’t sell yourself short by putting up with excuses about not having enough time to spend with you. If he’s into you, he’s into you and he will move mountains to make time for you. If you ever have to question if he’s really interested or if you spend too much time wondering where he is and what he is doing, move on and find someone who is into you.”
“That reminds me of the saying, “If you spend too long holding onto the one that treats you like an option, you’ll miss finding the one that treats you like a priority.”
“Yup. That’s it exactly. The only way he is going to respect you, is if you respect yourself.”
“And as I always say, whether you are in a relationship or not, you get to lay your head on the pillow feeling good about who you are.”
Sage advice from Pooh.
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